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How to Help Someone Mourning Death of a Pet |
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Written by Admin
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Wednesday, 27 June 2007 |
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Have you ever witnessed a friend or neighbor distraught over the death of a pet? If you have never owned a pet, or considered having one, were you surprised to see someone crying? Actually, such a response is just as normal as when a close friend or loved one dies.
Here’s what you should know about helping someone who is mourning the death of a pet since there is great sorrow involved that can go on for long periods of time.
1. Just as in the death of a friend or family member (and most animals are considered part of the family), grief is to be expected due to the degree of emotional investment in the object of loss. Emotional investment means caring and concern; it is love in-depth. Only the mourner knows the depth of that investment. Sometimes pet grief is more intense than the grief associated with the death of a loved one.
2. Give permission to show emotion by something you say or do. Give the person a hug and say, “This must bring deep hurt” or “I’m so sorry to hear that.” Use the name of the pet when you can. Recognize how close the relationship was between the pet and the mourner and encourage him/her to talk about the illness or what led up to the death.
3. Offer to be of service in some way. Bring food over to the home, if appropriate. Go with the owner to the pet cemetery. Provide transportation. Simply showing you are aware of the impact of the death will be of great help to your friend.
4. Review the relationship the person had with the pet in a gentle caring way. Ask questions regarding how long the pet was part of the family and where he/she came from. Encourage story telling involving what the pet did or did not do. All of this will give you a better idea of what the loss means to the person.
5. Grief over the death of a beloved animal is just as individual as grief over the death of a family member. There will be a wide range of differences, some demonstrative others very reserved. Do not judge the depth of grief by outside appearances. Respect all expressions of grief. Some individuals will hide their grief over fear others will ridicule their behavior. Be sure to include children in learning about grief and death through the death of the pet.
6. Keep in mind, especially with older adults living alone, some companion animals may be the only family the person has. Thus the animal is one of the few or perhaps the only one the mourner received unconditional love from. |
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Written by Admin
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Friday, 06 April 2007 |
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You live with a predator.
He is not human.
He is armed with fangs for slashing flesh and molars for crushing bone. His jaw
may exert nine hundred pounds per square inch of pressure. He has forty-two
teeth in all.
His sense of smell is so powerful that we, with our human limitations, can
barely comprehend. Our olfactory sense does not detect odors unless they are
painfully obvious. The nose of this more efficient hunter collects and
concentrates minute traces of scent until they create a mental picture more
detailed than a visual image. When he smells the ground, he knows every thing
that has passed within many, many hours, days even.
While our human eyes process a wealth of colorful detail, his eyes are
specialized organs tuned to detect movement above all.
Aligned above his eyes and nose, aimed forward, preternatural ears detect
frequencies and sound which easily escape us. Noises such as the softest rodent
squeak beneath a thick blanket of snow do not evade him. The footfall of a
stranger on an outside porch step does not escape his attention. He hears the
breath of large prey even from a distance.
He is swift. The fastest of his kind can sprint at forty miles per hour,
covering ten feet in a single bound.
He is agile and he is strong. He can crawl. He can jump. He has a high ratio of
muscle to fat. He is an efficient predator. A carnivore designed to detect prey,
catch it, to kill, to eat, to reproduce.
He is a social animal. Left to his own kind, he will live in a clearly organized
pack led by a dominant male and a dominant female. Serious challenges to the
social structure will be met swiftly and violently. Yet a strong survival and
social instinct inhibits this killer from harming his own kind unless necessary
to maintain order. Thus, he speaks a complex and rich language with which he can
advertise his intentions. He assures his pack mates that he means no harm, but
that he will defend his rank within the pack.
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Making Your Dog a Vegetarian |
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Written by Admin
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Friday, 06 April 2007 |
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During the last few decades many people have, justifiably,, decided to remove
meat and dairy products from their diets. Whether they determine to become a
vegan or a vegetarian, most feel their decision has improved their physical and
spiritual well-being.
Many of these people also own one or more dogs. Because of their personal
philosophies and their own satisfactory dietary experiences, many then decide to
feed their dogs a diet derived exclusively from sources that exclude meat and
dairy products.
But is this decision a good one, from their pet's perspective?
Humans are omnivores. We are provided with saliva that contains various enzymes
to predigest the starches in our diet, specific teeth to grind and breakdown the
plant fibers we eat and a digestive tract of medium length. In addition, our
jaws work in a manner that allows them to move not only in an up and down
direction, but also from side to side, so we can easily eat foods derived from
both plant and animal origins.
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